How It All Adds Up ~ Family Dynamics

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Understanding What Makes Up Our Identities

Ah, conflict. I have a love-hate relationship with it. Mostly because I can be an amazing mediator and an even more amazing shit-stirrer. The perks of being personable is that it’s always to your own advantage, regardless of what people assume about you. Just because you’re agreeable doesn’t mean you agree with everyone.

I learned very early on that I was a person that others came to unload on and seek advice from. I also learned soon after that knowledge is indeed power. I am of course referring to my wonderfully vibrant siblings. I have four of them. I am right smack in the middle, and boy, did I have all the goss. Not that anyone else knew that of course.

Being the middle child gave me certain social skills. Listening, consoling, advice giving, empathy, mediating, defusing and problem solving among other things. Although this was not something I realized until much later in life.

The way you learn to interact with your family members can shape the type of communicator you become. It can also develop necessary social skills that you take into the professional world and your romantic relationships. But you can’t forget that you are always learning. Sometimes understanding your family dynamic can help you make changes for the better. It can also lead to a better understanding of what has shaped other people. Putting these two skills together is sort of the sweet spot everyone looks for.

So, the next time you find yourself in a difficult conversation, maybe picture what kind of sibling they are?! It could help!


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